![]() I could go on and on and on and on telling you about the wonders of silence and listening… But that could defeat the purpose. Silence is a great teacher because it opens your eyes and your mind to new and exciting things. ![]() For that purpose, we talk a lot, unaware of the fact that displaying your knowledge makes you seem a bit pretentious and not admired.ĭo you want to influence others? Learn to listen, learn how and when to shut up learn for your benefit learn for the benefit of your goal learn for the benefit of those around you. Presumably, you want to be likable… All of us do. Forced to remain silent, many people understand better what means the struggle of abstaining from things you feel compelled the do. You might be surprised by the results of this exercise. That’s why when I work with people that want to lose weight who complain about loved ones not understanding their struggle, I suggest this exercise: Going to a party together the overweight person eats nothing, and the loved one is not allowed to say not even a single word all evening. Silence makes most of us add concessions, favors, bonuses, or cut demands (apparently we want less from those who talk less).Īll good so far, silence is excellent… But listening doesn’t come naturally to the human mind. Skilled negotiators learn first to shut up because most people can’t bear the silence. Keeping your mouth shut and listening is a sign of wisdom, not a weakness. Yet, your presence says everything your friend needs to hear “I’m here for you”. Many of us avoid, for example, visiting a friend in the hospital being afraid that we would not say the right words. However, you know you have left many other opportunities to speak your mind… What you can’t do on Thursday, you could do on the following days… Friday is an end. Silence is like a Thursday because it’s kind of hard to keep your mouth shut when you have so many things to say. Why? Because it comes after a Sunday which you never want to end. Silence is like an inspiring Thursday after a troublesome Monday… And let’s face it, most Mondays are troublesome. ![]() That is why learning to be silent, particularly when dealing with certain types of people and/or situations, it’s more beneficial than arguing or shouting.Ĭan you count how many times being silent saved your purpose? It is true that there’s immense power in silence. Silence can it really help you get your point across better than uttering words?
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